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How do you measure success as a blogger?

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So my blog is useless… or at least that’s what I was told this week!  Depressing to hear this from anyone to be honest, but kinda soul-destroying when it comes from someone who meant the absolute world to me a short while ago.  Not gonna lie, what with this and mock exams (don’t exactly leave anybody feeling sprightly do they?), the start of this week was less than positive.  It’s made me think though, that’s for sure.  What is my blog?  What does it mean to me?

I like to think I can strike a balance here.  This is my ‘personal’ space where I don’t write to suit a fixed criteria.  I witter on about the most mundane aspects of my life.  I blog stuff that in all likelihood holds little or no interest to the average person, because who needs to know which skirt I wore today?   I do it often, this wittering.  For this reason, blogging is an outlet.  Sometimes I pour stuff into Joli House in the most jumbled of manner.  Kind of like my own little pensieve!

And then there’s the other side of blogging.  The side where I hope to act in a professional manner.  Or at least as professional as a just 17 year old can be.  The opportunities that blogging has brought – brand collaborations, writing opportunities etc. have been a hugely satisfying part of blogging.  Sadly, it’s this side of Joli House that brought about this ridicule.  Apparently, I don’t know my ‘market’.  In fact, I am actually ignorant of what a ‘market’ even is.

Market: definition – ‘an area or arena in which commercial dealings are conducted’.  Hmmm.  Not the most flattering way to refer to the people who are kind enough to engage with me here.  Seriously?  Is that what some people think I want blogging to be about?  Yes I do want to take a professional approach to it.  Yes I hope it can grow and maybe be a stepping stone to further writing.  But for the love of God, if you ever hear me refer to ‘markets’ in the same sentence as Joli House then just slap me hard in the freakin’ face yeah?

Don’t get me wrong, I do think of this space almost as a fledgling business, and of course, I’d like to be as ‘successful’ as possible in nurturing it.  But how to measure success?  I guess that’s a very individual thing and I’m also guessing I’m a little more laid-back about this than most.  I was very ‘successful’ with my GCSE results and – fingers crossed – I’d do reasonably well with my A levels too, but honestly, I don’t feel the compulsion to kill myself jumping through Oxford or Cambridge hoops any time soon.  I want a degree and I want a good one but I’m in no rush and for the time being, I’m happy to take a flexible approach.  I won’t feel a failure if I have a late start on this goal if travel or work opportunities arise.  And the same goes for Joli House; I won’t feel it’s a failure if I’m not at the top of the blogging pile.  God knows….it’s a bloody big pile!  If you guys are still taking the time to read and even comment then all is good.

My measure of success will never be the square footage I can afford in central London.  It won’t be 5* resort holidays.  It won’t be a prestige car parked at an (impossibly expensive) city address.  It’ll be my freedom.  Freedom to be comfortable in a modest (but cute) home, freedom to make an idiot of myself learning new stuff, and most important of all, freedom to spend time with those that I love.

I guess that in our quest for success, there are people who’ll support you and there are those who’ll ridicule you.  Evidently, some will surprise you and do both.  It’s up to you how you react.  The one who was once my biggest support has now found a stick to beat me with and I’d be lying if I said it didn’t hurt.  Their idea of success is totally at odds with mine.  It is however, no less valid.  Each to his own.  I wish them well in life and all their endeavours.  Que sera sera.

lily kate x
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64 Comments

  • Reply
    Helen
    16th January 2015 at 8:09 pm

    Lily you are a lovely girl with a fantastic life ahead of you, with an amazing mum and dad who support you in every aspect of your life. So don’t let some jumped up jealous little p@@&k try and put you down. Live for today and let tomorrow sort its self out. Ignor the jealousy they only want what you have. They had their chance. Didn’t know a good thing when they had it

    • Reply
      lily kate
      16th January 2015 at 9:58 pm

      Ahh thank you Helen! Some people just find satisfaction in putting others down don’t they 🙂

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    Benn Leyland
    16th January 2015 at 8:46 pm

    As far as spontaneous wittering goes, your blog is great. There doesn’t need to be an agenda for every blog post, you’ve proved that countless times already. Like you say, writing is an outlet, not a duty- there’s no specific thing you can ever write about. In the same sense that life shouldn’t constantly be lived following a specific regime that’s the same as the day prior. That’s the point at which things become wearisome, when they’re often repeated over and over.

    In terms of the second part of the article, or ‘wittering’ as you so eloquently put it😂, you hit the nail on the head. Directly at that. Like previously mentioned, life doesn’t have to be this tedious journey in which you conform to what others expect. You should base your actions of comfortability, otherwise you’ll be repeating yourself over and over. It’s almost as if my little talk of writing your blog a specific way, acts as a deep metaphor for life; although in truth, I wasn’t insinuating that at the time, haha. Take it how you want, I suppose. I don’t want to delve too greatly into the subject of conformance and enjoying yourself doing whatever pleases you, or else It’ll seem as though I’m having an existential crisis. But like I said, opinions are subjective, there’s always going to be people that don’t agree with things, the way of the world. If you’re at the point of comfort in doing ‘said thing’ that it doesn’t bother you what they say, that’s when you know it’s right for you. So, keep it up. It’s always a good read and I suspect you know this. Don’t so much ignore those that don’t like it, but use them as way of measuring how much you couldn’t care, as you’re happy just the way you are.

    As a parting note I’ll simply say, have a good time researching Chairman Mao, haha.

    • Reply
      lily kate
      16th January 2015 at 8:56 pm

      I think this is one of my favourite comments I’ve ever received, thank you so much Benn! Your thoughts are absolutely brilliant. I’d imagine you’re one of the very best at not caring about the opinions of others. It really bears no actual semblance on my life what certain individuals think! Like you said, there is no way on earth you can please everyone, I just seem to do a particularly good job at dividing them. Who doesn’t love a good existential crisis anyway? 😛 I really hope you’ve found plenty ‘said things’ that you enjoy doing too, you really deserve to be so happy!

      Oh don’t worry, I’ll have a fabulous time ploughing through that booklet. 😀 How did you find the exam?

      • Reply
        Benn Leyland
        16th January 2015 at 10:35 pm

        It’s an honour😆. I feel as though it’s one of those things that I distance myself from. Confrontations aren’t my forte, so to be in a situation where I’m not arousing such drama is always great. But like you said, as long as I’m comfortable, why would I want to change because it bothers somebody else? I don’t conspicuously throw around controversial comments to offend other people, so I find that a lot of the time, people do things out of jealousy- which is a compliment in some ways. I’ve always been one for simplicity, the less responsibility, the less struggle. Never been a goner for pressure, haha. Just would rather live life without unatoned problems, etc.

        Haha, I warm more and more to Alastair every lesson, for whatever reason. I feel as though I did quite well too, thanks! Seemed to remember a decent chunk of what I should have done. Irrespective, that’s never a good measurement of how I DID though. My judgement is often lacking, unfortunately. I picked the last two, feeling as though I couldn’t pass up the Spanish-American War (personal fave) and Roosevelt was a nice treat too.
        Anyway, I write too much, haha. Less of me, more of you, how do you feel it went?

        • Reply
          lily kate
          17th January 2015 at 4:02 pm

          You seem comfortable in your ways so don’t change for anyone! Least you shouldn’t receive these kind of comments 😀
          The questions that came up weren’t that bad were they? I did the first two; I wasn’t so sure on the third 24 marker so thought I best stick to the other one. Wrote an absolute ton for the question on rural areas. I just want to know our results now!

          • Benn Leyland
            17th January 2015 at 7:49 pm

            As do you, so likewise. I thought the third was good myself, haha. Isolationism is something that seemed to stick for whatever reason; I have very specific memories of Alastair telling us about it then proceeding to pull that gold-toothed smile that he so often does. A lot chose the first two though :S- can’t worry about that now I suppose, haha. So do I! Wish you the best for when they do arrive!

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    Saskia
    16th January 2015 at 8:55 pm

    Such a well written post and everything you said is exactly right. You’ve already proven that you can achieve whatever you want to, and there’s no doubt that whether it’s Jolihouse, your education or any other aspect of your life, you’ll continue to succeed, no matter what anyone else says 🙂 x

    • Reply
      lily kate
      16th January 2015 at 9:03 pm

      Sas I love you gal! I’m not even trying to prove anything to anyone or myself, which is kind of my point, I don’t even have an end goal in mind! You will continue to succeed in absolutely everything too, I know you will. I’m betting we’ll get the same marks in all our exams too 😉

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    Niamh
    16th January 2015 at 9:10 pm

    I do love this post lily! I was nodding along to everything you wrote. There’s no point in having an end goal for everything in life, blogging included, you should just enjoy doing it.

    x x

    • Reply
      lily kate
      16th January 2015 at 9:45 pm

      Aw I’m glad Niamh! I really don’t have any end goals whatsoever, but I don’t see any problem with that 🙂 Thank you so much for commenting!

  • Reply
    christina
    16th January 2015 at 9:13 pm

    your blog is fantastic and i only wish my blog was as engaging and as well written. you have created a wonderful space that people fully enjoy. keep doing what you are, cos you are a success – i can only imagine what you will achieve in the future when you’re only 17 now… world is your oyster! haha x

    • Reply
      lily kate
      16th January 2015 at 9:47 pm

      Thank you so much Christina! Your blog is fabulous, don’t be silly! I’m gonna keep plodding along, see where it takes me. I’ll be sure to share everything along the way! 😀

  • Reply
    Celestial
    16th January 2015 at 9:20 pm

    First off, the comment made to you about your blog was obviously said to hurt you. It was unnecessary, rude, and not truthful. That leads me to believe that this person was jealous or hurt and was attempting to bring you down to make themselves feel better. People who know us well know just where to stick the dagger so that it does the most damage. Don’t let that happen. This isn’t about you, it’s about them. If they were trying to help, then the comment would have been much more encouraging.

    Second of all, I’m not in the demographic of people your blog would be ‘aimed’ at. I’m an early 30’s, mother of two, home maker, only wear makeup to church, and most of my wardrobe I’ve owned for 7+ years without anything trendy added. But I keep coming back and reading every post. I’ve watched you grow up (from a reading this blog sense) and enjoy the ‘witterings’ I have read here. I’m excited to see/read where life takes you. And hey, it keeps me somewhat up to date on what new styles are 😉

    This is a great online diary that you’ll enjoy looking back at for years to come. It’s a great way to meet kindred spirits that you wouldn’t otherwise have been able to meet. It is making you a more well-rounded individual by contacting you with other people in different facets (twitter, meet-ups…etc.) It’s an outlet to blow off steam. It’s a journal to be creative in.

    Keep it up!

    • Reply
      lily kate
      16th January 2015 at 9:54 pm

      I’m so so glad you commented! It honestly means so much that readers have stuck around through my posts about all sorts of random stuff. I don’t think I particularly have a demographic, I write to whoever wants to read whatever I have to say, but the more varied the demographic, the better! It makes me so happy.
      I suppose they could’ve given more constructive criticism if that was what they were aiming for couldn’t they?
      That’s the joy of having your thoughts captured on the internet I suppose: you have far more references to look back on a reminisce (cringe?) than you would just through photos or a brief journal. I already find it interesting to look back on myself from just over a year ago, so I can imagine it’ll be quite something to virtually time travel through my own thoughts!
      Again, thank you so much for taking the time to read my posts and to comment, it honestly means so much! Wishing all the best to you and yours 🙂

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    lauren
    16th January 2015 at 9:43 pm

    What a heartfelt post. I can tell that this person really got to you otherwise you wouldn’t have written something like this. However it is great that you know what you want from your blog and although you may not be the crème de la crème at the moment if you have the passion and motivation then you don’t know where you will be in the next few weeks, months or years! I wouldn’t listen or take to heart what this person has to say as it does just seem to be something a bitter person would say.

    I think your writing is great and you can only ever improve if you practice something so I’m sure you will be able to achieve whatever it is that you want from this blog 🙂

    Lauren 🙂

    • Reply
      lily kate
      16th January 2015 at 9:56 pm

      They really did get to me yes, and what better way to collect my thoughts than to write them in a blog post! I’m not really striving for the creme de la creme if I’m honest; I’m just hoping to see where my potential lies and have fun along the way 🙂
      Thank you so much for reading and taking the time to comment! You’re so lovely 🙂

  • Reply
    Megan
    16th January 2015 at 10:15 pm

    What a silly comment for someone to make. For a start, blogging should never be for a specific goal and secondly, you’re only 17! Why should you need to be worrying about not knowing what ‘markets’ are. Blogging is a hobby and it makes you happy – that’s a pretty good use already 🙂
    Megan x
    London Callings

    • Reply
      lily kate
      16th January 2015 at 10:18 pm

      Blogging is far too open to have a specific goal isn’t it! As evidenced by these comments, my blog appeals to very different people so tbh I’m not gonna concern myself with markets and the like 🙂 Thank you so much for stopping by and commenting!

  • Reply
    Margaret Law
    17th January 2015 at 1:34 am

    I am a 56 year old, married with a 21 year old daughter and a 19 year old son. I LOVE your blog. I emigrated from Scotland many years and all my family are still there so I do go ‘home’ a lot. I started reading your blog when it was your moms and I continued on when it became yours and it still makes me smile. I knit constantly and love your patterns and all of your creativity. Don’t let someone from your past mess with who you are and who you will become. It seems to me that your parents raised a great young woman with the right attitude. We all go through this kind of (sorry) crap in our lives, it just makes us stronger. Sometimes the only way our ex ‘friends’ feel good about themselves is to criticize someone they previoisly cared about. Don’t let the, get you down, you are AWESOME. Margaret

    • Reply
      lily kate
      17th January 2015 at 4:05 pm

      I LOVE your comments too! Scotland is such a lovely country; I have family there too. I’m so glad my blog makes you smile! Honestly the wider the range of people that enjoy reading, the happier I am. I’m trying not to let it get to me really, they can’t have had positive intentions or the criticism would’ve been made in a more constructive way. Thank you so so much Margaret!

  • Reply
    Max
    17th January 2015 at 3:08 am

    I thought, upon reading your title for this post, that this was a joke, or the intro to a fabulous metaphor on your virtual life, but no. Where is the punch line? I am sorry that one of your former supporters, dare I say friends, has made this hurtful comment. That really sucks! it is not nice and what goes around comes around! Ha!

    Never mind that person. Just explore. Do your thing! I enjoy your blog. It is a showcase for your talents and for you. It is not just that I need to know which skirt you are wearing, it is more about how you present yourself, what you think about and what concerns you. You aren’t really tied to any one type of blog or writing. Not really. Not ever.

    I find you very inspiring! Maybe that is off topic. I read above that someone felt she was not the target demographic group of your blog. So maybe I am responding a bit to that. But those words haven’t really crossed my mind. Kind of like “market”. Maybe I am your target demographic market. I do buy your patterns, after all?? It may be kind of unusual as an old person to find a young person inspiring and a good example, but hey, I wasn a very good teenager at the time and I am not a great example of a grown up now. I have always been more open to reading what you are all about. Finding out what you are doing thinking wearing seeing, because it is so nice that you share these things!

    • Reply
      lily kate
      17th January 2015 at 4:14 pm

      I wish it was a joke, but unfortunately not! Maybe what goes around will come back around to them, who knows.
      I love that you love my blog! I’m so glad you don’t mind my writing about anything and everything 😀 It’s such a lovely feeling to be told called inspiring, it honestly is! I never write to a target demographic, just to whoever fancies reading 🙂 Sometimes I feel like I’m not a very good teenager too, I feel odd when I’m dressed ‘typical teenager’ like haha! I go to work and dancing wearing trainers and a hoodie, so not ‘me’. 😛
      I’m so glad you enjoy reading these things, so I shall continue to write anything and everything!

  • Reply
    Rebecca
    17th January 2015 at 4:32 am

    I can’t believe anyone would say your blog is useless! They probably know how much time and effort you put into this, and they said it on purpose, knowing it would hurt. I love what you said about success meaning freedom, and I’d also say you’re already very successful as a genuinely friendly blogger who interacts with readers! You’re really inspiring to me.

    • Reply
      lily kate
      17th January 2015 at 4:23 pm

      They do know exactly how much I put into it, which is why they knew it’d sting I think! I’m so happy you think so 😀 Receiving such lovely comments makes me feel like I am successful in achieving what I want from blogging!

  • Reply
    Kristen
    17th January 2015 at 5:00 am

    Witter away and don’t stop! You are adorable and a joy to read. Ignore the meanies. xo

    • Reply
      lily kate
      17th January 2015 at 4:25 pm

      Oh I shall do, don’t you worry! The meanies of this world ey, what can you do 🙂

  • Reply
    Estella
    17th January 2015 at 12:39 pm

    Lily,
    I have been reading your blog for years and have even put my 17 year old daughter onto it (she’s into fashion and blogs as well). Blogging is a difficult thing because sometimes you do find you pour your heart out about something and it is let loose into cyberspace. Every now and then you will have to shrug off someone’s pettiness. I’ll quote Taylor Swift in saying ” a haters going to hate, hate, hate” and there is little you can do about it.

    Keep blogging what matters to you.

    • Reply
      lily kate
      17th January 2015 at 4:26 pm

      Thank you so much for reading! (And your daughter too!) I guess the more random stuff you write about, the more you leave yourself open to conflicting opinions with people. Oh I do love a bit of Taylor 😀 Girl speaks words of wisdom!

  • Reply
    Neesha
    17th January 2015 at 6:18 pm

    How dare anyone say that to you! That’s horrible. As long as you yourself know your blog is bloody fabulous that’s all that matters!

    • Reply
      lily kate
      17th January 2015 at 6:19 pm

      Not very nice is it Neesha! Your blog is bloody fabulous too 😀

  • Reply
    Corinne
    17th January 2015 at 6:49 pm

    This makes me so mad.

    You don’t even need to know your market unless you’re using a blog to sell a product or something! That’s mental.

    I love your blog, it’s not useless at all. It’s inspiring and wonderful to read about a young women who is doing brilliantly in school, looks after herself well and wears some awesome clothes.

    Carry on doing what you are doing.

    x

    • Reply
      lily kate
      17th January 2015 at 7:11 pm

      Exactly, speaking about my blog in business terms doesn’t make sense! Some people are just in their own little bubble.
      Thank you so much Corinne! I shall carry on my blog indefinitely, useless or not 😀

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    Caz
    17th January 2015 at 7:00 pm

    I can’t believe someone said that to you. If this is your hobby and it means something to you, that person should really show some respect and tolerance. I think you’re doing a fantastic job and please don’t feel disheartened by rude comments. Keep up the good work and all the best for 2015. Speak soon, Caz

    Caz | Lunch Break Adventures

    • Reply
      lily kate
      17th January 2015 at 7:13 pm

      Thank you Caz! My blog might not be their cup of tea but you really can’t please everyone, and I can’t say I’m particularly trying to. 🙂 I’m not sure exactly what my blog ‘means’ but it’s definitely something, and that’s all that really matters. All the best for you too!

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    Debi
    17th January 2015 at 7:55 pm

    I can’t quite believe that someone would ever say something like that to you. This lovely little place is amazing and your readers love hearing what you have to say however “mundane” that may be. I don’t think anybody’s blog is useless if it gives the writer enjoyment and a creative outlet. It doesn’t matter how successful your blog is in a business sense! I love your blog. Just keep doing what you’re doing so long as it makes you happy 🙂
    Debi x

    • Reply
      lily kate
      18th January 2015 at 4:59 pm

      It doesn’t make sense does it! I find it enjoyable and I’m so happy that you enjoy reading too. 😀 Yes blogging may require some aspects of professionalism, but after all it’s just for fun for me!
      Thank you so much for commenting 😀

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    Kazza
    17th January 2015 at 11:05 pm

    I have been reading this blog for years, from your mum being the author and writing primarily about knitting, to you writing about everyday life. I have been enjoying the variety of your posts and I am glad I keep returning.

    • Reply
      lily kate
      18th January 2015 at 5:01 pm

      You have no idea how happy it makes me to know that original knitter readers still follow! I’m so glad you keep returning too, thank you!

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    jen
    18th January 2015 at 2:26 am

    Lily, I have been VERY out of touch with your blog, or my blog, or anybody’s blog… just not blogging lately. But I did read just a tiny bit of this post and wanted to point out what I see as a very predictable situation rooted in jealousy. I know I don’t need to point fingers , everybody knows who they are in this world…lol. Best of luck, you’re courageous and lovely ! xx

    • Reply
      lily kate
      18th January 2015 at 5:03 pm

      Everybody certainly does know who they are! Thank you lovely, I shall keep blogging anything and everything 😀 Thank you!

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    shelbyroo
    18th January 2015 at 11:36 am

    Lily, I’ve been reading this blog ever since it was your mum’s, and I’ve never commented til now, but I just wanted to say your blog is fab! don’t let some jealous little **** make you feel bad! I originally started reading it because of the knitting but I love the variety of posts. just keep doing what’s right for you x

    • Reply
      lily kate
      18th January 2015 at 5:09 pm

      Thank you sooo much Shelby! I’m so glad you like everything, I really really am 😀 Thank youuuu!

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      lily kate
      18th January 2015 at 5:09 pm

      Thank you sooo much Shelby! I’m so glad you like everything, I really really am 😀 Thank youuuu!

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    Rebecca Ellis
    18th January 2015 at 7:03 pm

    Wonderful post 🙂 and very well written, I like popping over to your blog for a read in the evening… Never worry however about what that person has to say :), I have only told two people about my blog and that’s my Mum and Boyfriend, I plan on keeping it this way for a while, especially since I don’t have very many close friends. x

    http://www.sheintheknow.co.uk

    • Reply
      lily kate
      18th January 2015 at 8:26 pm

      Thank you Rebecca! That’s kind of how I determine my success – that my blog’s the kind of site people pop over to for a read in the evenings. I can’t actually remember telling my friends, I think I just kind of slipped it into conversation and they didn’t think it was too strange!

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    Orli
    18th January 2015 at 7:54 pm

    (This may be my first comment, I can’t recall–I lurk a lot.)

    I’ve been reading for a long time and I love everything you post. Little snippets of your life and your really awesome fashion sense, fun insights into your knitting and design process, everything is cool or fun or just nice to read.

    Not everything has to have a business agenda, although believe me if I see something in the future that says “LilyKate” I’ll be much more likely to buy it having the history of reading your stuff. It seems to me this person was jealous or otherwise trying hard to stomp on your success…ignore them.

    You rock. Keep on doing your stuff, because you’re good at it.

    • Reply
      lily kate
      18th January 2015 at 8:31 pm

      Thank you so so much Orli! (Love your name btw, so cute :P) I’m glad you like my variety 😀
      You hit the nail on the head there – being sometimes professional about blogging doesn’t mean it needs a business agenda. And wouldn’t that just be the dream to have a LilyKate brand haha! Thank you again!

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    Sarah
    18th January 2015 at 8:22 pm

    I think everyone has already given you all the advice and encouraging words to give 😛
    Just dropping by after stumbling across your lovely blog from the lbloggers chat this evening ^.^

    It’s wonderful 🙂 Don’t stop ^.^

    Big hello from down South England

    Sarah xxo

    thesaltyseablog.blogspot.com

    • Reply
      lily kate
      18th January 2015 at 8:32 pm

      People have been so so lovely! I’ve just had a quick peek at your blog too and it’s sooo lovely! Off for a proper nosy now 😀
      Thank you!

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    Laila
    18th January 2015 at 11:49 pm

    Lily, I don’t think I have commented on your blog but felt moved to after reading this. You’re so smart and everything you’ve written here is so true. You’re very wise, it’s sad to think somebody has given you mean and destructive comments and please don’t take them to heart. Keep on doing what you’re doing – you’re great and the blogosphere would miss you! XX

    • Reply
      lily kate
      19th January 2015 at 5:35 pm

      I’m so happy you did comment Laila! Thank you! 😀 I’m gonna keep going regardless, it’s about what I enjoy anyway!

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    Hannah @ Hannah Bakes Things
    19th January 2015 at 1:01 pm

    What a ridiculous thing for someone to say! People who view it just as a business do not get blogging at all, that’s just not what it’s about. Of course if someone offered to pay us to do what we love or brands we adore want to talk to us we’re going to say yes, who wouldn’t? But that’s not the core! I think anyone who views their readers as an ‘audience’ just to be a number in their media pack won’t stick around long to be honest. You’re so smart and I think you’re going to have such an amazing life. I wouldn’t pay others opinions any notice if I were you!

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      lily kate
      19th January 2015 at 5:43 pm

      Blogging really can’t be compared to business can it! Nobody starts blogging with the intention of making money, it’s the enjoyment side that’s the reason people get into it. Getting paid for projects and working with brands doesn’t mean blogging isn’t personal either. You’ve described my thoughts exactly tbh! Thank you for stopping by 😀

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    PendleStitches
    19th January 2015 at 6:15 pm

    I think that everything that needs to be said has been said. But it’s worth noting that many people have taken time out of their busy days to comment and show support for you and your blog. I think that should hold more weight than one spiteful comment from someone who was obviously trying to upset you, for whatever reason, and who doesn’t seem to have a grasp on the realities of blogging at all. Chin up, m’dear…you’re doing great x

    • Reply
      lily kate
      19th January 2015 at 8:42 pm

      It’s been unbelievable how lovely and supportive so many people have been! Definitely means so much more than that one mean comment. Hope you and the babas are doing great too!

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    josiekitten
    19th January 2015 at 8:33 pm

    I like reading your blog – it gives me an insight to the way young people are thinking. You have a natural talent to write so don’t let the unkind words of others put you off. Keep on blogging!

    • Reply
      lily kate
      19th January 2015 at 8:42 pm

      Thank you so much Helen! I’m glad my blog appeals to all ages 😀 I’ll carry on forever!

  • Reply
    ella
    22nd January 2015 at 7:30 am

    Such a lovely and inspiring post! Your blog is wonderful to read and you’re very good at it. Reading genuine posts from someone lovely is more enjoyable and comforting than any sales market focused blogs!

    • Reply
      lily kate
      22nd January 2015 at 9:39 pm

      Aw thank you Ella! I stopped reading most print magazines because half of what I was paying for was adverts, so it’s quite sad when you see blogs go down that route too!

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    Jordan
    22nd January 2015 at 10:31 am

    I can’t believe somebody would say this to you! Your blog is amazing and one of my favourites, definitely not useless at all. I get similar comments a lot, especially when I say I’d like to run my blog full time (although I’m a long way off that yet!). People often tell me that I need to focus on getting a normal job. I think a lot of people still don’t understand the way blogging works so they get confused and defensive about it. But trust me, your blog is not useless. You are lovely and amazing, never forget it!

    hellomissjordan.blogspot.co.uk xx

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      lily kate
      22nd January 2015 at 9:47 pm

      That makes me so happy to know that my blog is one of your favourites! So many people really don’t understand blogging properly do they? I say be realistic, but a ‘normal job’ isn’t for everyone.
      Thank you so much!

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