It’s difficult to start this kind of post without sounding like I’m taking myself way too seriously. On the one hand, some could be considered lighthearted and funny, and yet some are just kind of sad. No matter what you do, somebody will always find fault or disapprove! The range of things I’ve been judged for over the years struck me – I’m talking one extreme to the other here – so I thought I’d share to see if anybody else has experienced similar.
— I’ve been taken the mick out of for ‘being like an old granny’ for knitting. For ages I didn’t tell anybody about my hobby, no matter how proud I was of the clothes I’d designed and made myself. National publications featured my designs, but I made sure that only 1 or 2 people at school knew. Surprise surprise, as soon as I brought my GCSE textiles project into school, along came the weird looks and ‘granny’ comments.
— On the flip side, I’ve also been judged by prominent knitwear designers who apparently said ‘there’s no way that’s her designing‘. Every single one of the patterns I published was my own work from start to finish, including those I wrote age 12. So yeah, that’s judgements based on my age. Luckily, there were plenty of others in the industry who were super supportive!
— I’ve been judged for moving on too quickly. It would seem that there’s a token amount of time you’re supposed to spend alone, pushing all potential relationships aside. This token time seems different for girls and guys of course, but let’s not even go into that issue today. I’ve been on the receiving end of snide comments, not gonna lie.
— Apparently the subjects you choose to study say a lot about your personality. Whatever subjects you choose these days, there are always people who will pass judgement. From those who make sweeping statements that certain academic subjects almost guarantee you have zero personality, to those who doubt your ability to hit the grades based on not being the stereotypical student of a particular subject.
— I’m not fulfilling my potential, because I’ve chosen not to apply to prestigious universities. Brains are wasted if you don’t take them to Oxford or Cambridge, apparently. I haven’t even applied to any regular universities at all, and I explained why here. My plan is a little unconventional I know, but somebody felt the need to text me in the middle of the night to tell me I’m making the wrong decisions about my life. Funnily enough, this was the same person who told me my blog was useless last year, too.
— Choosing not to smoke weed has made me ‘stuck up’ in the eyes of some. I don’t even know what I can say about this. Each to their own and all that, but I reserve the right to choose my own poison thank you very much.
— I’ve been judged for having an online presence beyond Facebook. People either really get blogging, or they really don’t. I choose to write and people can choose whether or not they want to read or follow at all. The passive-agressive unfollow is still rife, but not something I eant to engage in tbh. I like looking at pictures of happy people, whether they be career girls, young mums, fitness inspiration, whatever. I don’t get tired of it, and I’m not interested in judging their life decisions based on an Instagram feed.
Not the cheeriest of topics today, my apologies! I guess the overall lesson would be that you just can’t please everyone, wouldn’t it? At the end of the day, I still feel that you should just judge people on how they treat you and others. It’d be so easy to fall into the cycle of believing what others say about you to be true. Ironically I know that I’ll be judged for saying some of these things, but I’m going write it anyway so I can look back in a couple of years and see if anything’s changed.
lily kate x